Man vs. Mantra

Am I mindful of my wife's meditation? Oh yes, I mind it quite a bit

Joshua Lutz for TIME

Kabat-Zinn leads a session at a retreat in upstate New York.

Meditation has made my life a lot more stressful. That's because it's my wife who's meditating. Having once researched meditation for a TIME cover story, I believe all the studies that prove it conditions your brain to focus and reduces anxiety. What no one has bothered to study, however, is how bad meditation is for the people who live with you.

My lovely wife Cassandra felt like she needed to calm her mind after getting so stressed by parenting that she started a fight with me, after which she admitted I was completely right. Personally, I thought she just needed to...

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