In my large family, we're the marrying kind. We're just not the staying-married kind. My father has been married so many times that the word umpteenth accompanied his most recent wedding announcement. This constant journey by members of my clan in and out of marriages--including my own failed union--has made me study the institution the way a lepidopterist studies butterflies pinned under glass. It has also made me wary of people who claim to have the answers to what makes a marriage work.
No matter that the divorce rate seems to be hanging steady at just under 50%; when it comes...