Ask Francine

Dear Francine,

Now that I've finally seen my daughter through college, she and her fiancé are working and saving for their wedding. She has always been traditional, and now she wants a big affair with all the trimmings. I've offered her $5,000, which is a lot of money to me as a single woman. Her father, who's remarried with kids, is matching that amount, but he's doing it behind his wife's back. Whose responsibility is it these days to pay for a child's wedding? My daughter feels cheated because her half sisters have been given lavish parties for big occasions.

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