Unlike the 200 gay and lesbian couples whose mass "wedding" ceremony last month made a loud political statement in San Francisco, Gerry Crane planned his commitment ceremony to be a private and discreet affair. On a misty day last October, 80 of Crane's closest friends gathered at a botanical garden in Grand Rapids, Michigan. With a Presbyterian minister presiding, Crane, 31, a high school music director, and his lover of four years, Randy Block, 36, affirmed their love and exchanged gold rings. Almost immediately the religious right directed its ire at Crane with the pinpoint accuracy of a laser-guided missile.
Crane...