A few moments later, Sade slips into a small dressing room. She politely asks the reporter who is with her for permission to light a cigarette and then proceeds to chain-smoke for the duration of the interview. She smiles readily and laughs often, but something soft and vulnerable in her seems to clench reflexively--like a baby's fist around an adult's finger--when personal questions are raised. She exhales anxious gray smoke. She's not the interview type.
It's fashionable to be a press-shy celebrity--to bemoan the loss of one's privacy while simultaneously courting the cameras at movie premieres and fashion shows. But Sade comes by her press shyness honestly. On the Chris Rock Show, she just sings her song and never says a word. Like a comet making its celestial rounds, she appears in the star-studded celebrity heavens infrequently and almost only when she has new songs to perform.
This time around, Sade, 41, has other things on her mind besides music. In her songs and videos--hits like Smooth Operator, Your Love Is King and Kiss of Life--she evokes a world of romance and longing, of continent hopping and heart breaking. Her lyrics mirror her life. Since the release of her last CD, the elegant Love Deluxe (1992), Sade has divorced Spanish filmmaker Carlos Scola, taken up with Jamaican record producer Bob Morgan and, with Morgan, had her first child, Ila, now 4. Says Sade: "My happiest moment was definitely when I was in the hospital holding Ila. I just looked at her, and I wanted the moment to go on forever."
Sade has also encountered drama outside her romantic life. In 1998 a judge in Kingston, Jamaica, ordered an arrest warrant for Sade after she failed to appear at a hearing on reckless-driving charges. "It wasn't really a traffic incident, to be honest," says Sade, who claims that a Jamaican policeman tried to pressure her into giving him a bribe. "It got blown into some incredible farcical event." In order to avoid arrest, Sade says she plans never to return to the island.
The singer (who released a greatest-hits album in 1994) says she waited for calm to settle over her life before getting back together with her band and beginning work on Lovers Rock. "I've just really been living my life and waiting for a peaceful moment where I could go into the studio and concentrate again," she says. "When I go in, I like everything in my life to be very peaceful because I can't split myself up. I have to be able to just focus on that one issue and then put myself in 100%."
Motherhood also prompted a shift in her priorities. "It changes the way you work. I used to just go into a studio and just stay there until the album was done. I could be completely selfish and immerse myself," she says. "[Being a mother] made me stronger as a person. To be a mother you must be strong. Even if you don't feel it, you have to pretend."
She doesn't have to pretend to be resolute. Born Helen Folasade Adu in Ibadan, Nigeria, the daughter of a white English nurse and a Nigerian teacher, she's been overcoming obstacles--cultural and artistic--virtually her entire life. Sade says she has always felt "accepted," but when she was 11 and living in England, she recalls being surrounded by white schoolboys and assailed with taunts such as, "Go black home, you'll be all white in the morning."
"I was perfectly happy about being black and didn't consider it an insult," she says. "So I just singled one of them out--he had really lank, greasy hair and acne--and I said to him, 'What about the way you look? You should look in the mirror. I know who I am.' Once they were afraid of being singled out and humiliated, they left me alone."
Lovers Rock draws deeply on Sade's past. It's a solemn album, and although not religious, its soulful vocals and reggae-inflected grooves have the quiet power of prayer. In the meditative song Immigrant, Sade revisits the discrimination her father faced when he came to England. "He didn't know what it was to be black," she sings, "'Til they gave him his change but didn't want to touch his hand." On Slave Song, she draws inspiration from the suffering of her African ancestors: "Teach my beloved children who've been enslaved/ to reach for the light continually." But just as prayers are ultimately about love, Sade's CD is suffused with that emotion as well. Not groping adolescent love but reflective, mature love in various forms. The Sweetest Gift explores love between a mother and a daughter (Sade wrote it for Ila); King of Sorrow is a pessimistic take on breakups; and By Your Side is a tribute to friendship.