The Detached Dad's Manifesto

How fathers can contribute by just chilling out

Advocates of attachment parenting might claim that their approach places demands on both genders, but we fathers know the truth. Regardless of our best intentions as equal partners, attachment parenting is really attachment mothering.

It's the mother who has to keep constant vigil over her diet while pregnant to ward off suboptimal fetal intelligence. She's the one who is encouraged to suffer authentically during natural childbirth. Dads can buy birthing balls and give back rubs and coach moms on deep breathing, but those are just grains of sand thrown into an ocean of labor pain. Once at home, a father can...

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