We're Divorced. No, Really

Keeping close ties with your ex can derail new loves and confuse the kids

Los Angeles photographer Mieke Kramer, 34, remained exceptionally good friends with her ex-husband after their divorce in 1998. When he picked up their son and daughter on weekends, the two would hug. She called him often--for advice about work, for comfort when she was upset. They even worked together on free-lance projects. Sometimes the men Kramer dated looked askance at this closeness, but she didn't feel there was a problem until three years ago when she started seeing copywriter Jim Tavares, 35. "Emotionally, you have him," Tavares told her. "You don't need another partner." Kramer disagreed at first. Then she realized he...

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