Calling It Off

Never mind about J. Lo and Ben. Why are so many engaged couples walking away from the big I do?

The country club, the photographer and the band had been booked. China and crystal from Macy's, carefully selected. Orders were coming in on the Williams-Sonoma registry. But 18 months into her engagement, Connie Oberle, 31, a corporate lawyer in New York City, decided not to go through with the wedding. "I just knew something wasn't right," Oberle says of her ex-fiance. "We met when we were both ski instructors, and we were great on snow but not when the snow melted."

Although calling it off was painful, the decision was eased by camaraderie. Sitting in a cafe on a trip to...

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